Put your foot in my shoe

I am really sorry for those who think I'm gonna write a psychology article. I'm not! But, I have to explain this using a bit of psychological term. I wanna introduce a word 'empathy'. Empathy is not sympathy. The 2 words are totally different.


According to WIKIPEDIA - the free encyclopedia,

EMPATHY - is the capacity to recognize or understand another's state of mind or emotion. It is often characterized as the ability to "put oneself into another's shoes", or to in some way experience the outlook or emotions of another being within oneself.

In a layman terms, A has to think like how B thinks, considering all emelements that being experienced by B. By being empathy, A has to forget that A is A. A has to be B (almost 100%). That's empathy!


Why am I writing about empathy today? Who asked that? Ohh.. you!! Good question! Of course, 'kalau takde angin, pokok takkan bergoyang kan'. Someone, please give me an English idiom for this one :).


The story...

I've been receiving many (or rather a lots) feedback since I started blogging in December 2007. Some of which were encouraging but some weren't. I didn't really mind since that's the package that I have to take by being a blogger. But, this particular feedback that I recently received hurt me so much.


Somebody has CYNICALLY / SARCASTICALLY informed someone (after reading my blog) that..

"the whole world will know everything that happen in my family - including the negative or the bad things that were done by my family members"

In other words, that SOMEBODY didn't really like the idea of writing a blog. Perhaps the person thinks that I'm trying to inform the world about the weaknesses of my family members.


First of all, I have to stress here that I'm writing about my family. As human, everyone in my family, including MYSELF, are HUMAN and we're not perfect. We have our mishaps / weaknesses and I am being honest. I am not a hypocrites - portraying only all the good things. I don't consider that as something sinful (aib) at all. I'm keeping my bedroom story to myself so far. Most importantly, I am writing about those who are related to me. My life revolves around my family. When I'm writing about my family, I am actually writing about my life. The most precious things that occured which could be forgotten one day. I am glad to share the story with those whom I considered as friends. I am pretty sure my friends are glad to read about my life.


If you or anybody out there wants to use my writing against me (untuk mengutuk, mengumpat dan menghina), then you're NOT welcome to read my blog. I would consider you as UNWELCOME READERS. You can read any other blogs that satisfy your conscious mind. You are not in my shoes. You don't know me. It's inappropriate for you to judge me or my family.


One day, you may experience the things that I have experienced. Only that day, you would realize why I am how the way I am. I would pray to God that you'll be more understanding instead of being judgmental.


I am writing a blog to jot my life experiences. This is also one of the ways to kill my boredom. I used to work before and I used to have friends. By being unemployed, I lost people to communicate daily. I can't simply step in my neighbors house and chit chatting. That's not my kind of attitude some more. I don't like to stay in people's house for hours to chat or mengumpat about others. I prefer to stay home but at the same time I like to make friends. So, this is my way of making friends. The blog is just a means of communication. I believe, my friends (the honest readers) are not judging me since they know all of us are human. We do mistakes in life and we admit our mistakes. We learned through mistakes anyway. I don't bluff in my writing. I only wrote about the truth. If anybody doesn't like reading the truthfulness of my writing, move on. Get your own life then! Thank you :).

By the way, siapa yang makan gula, akan terasa manisnya. Hanya orang-orang yang makan cili lah yang pasti akan terasa pedas.

'Selamat Menyambut Ramadhan Al Mubarak'